Probably because our early caregivers never had these questions answered
either.
Why is it that some people don't act out cruelty and violence despite an
upbringing that would seem to expect such an outcome?
Why do others internally and only mentally act out all sorts of violence,
but never actually live it out?
Many people in our world sadly suffer from violent thoughts and fantasies.
These can even lead to actual violent delusions, and eventually even criminal
psychosis.
It is very important to pay attention to this mental activity with the utmost tenderness and
compassion. Violence, whether it is experienced internally or actually perpetrated, is not in fact a
disease or the issue itself but just a symptom. And the symptoms can keep intensifying.
Why violent instead of gentle? * Why angry instead
of happy?
Why mean instead of nice?
The dis-ease itself is unresolved trauma, and the trauma itself was caused by cruelty and
violence when the person was a child. It is quite literally a vicious circle and very difficult to
extricate oneself from.
We are all vessels designed to hold experiences, not unlike a steam boiler holds water. In an
ideal sense the water in the boiler (our experiences) would flow in and become a part of us,
effortlessly. Should the water become agitated and heat up, the boiler is perfectly designed
to dissipate the temperature and pressure when the protective pressure valve opens to let
off steam.
Poor souls all of them. We must place a
tremendous emphasis on tenderness and
compassion, which in all cases are the beautiful
traits
which were withheld from these people as children by those
entrusted to
their care.
Why do others openly act out
hate and anger and revenge as
a lifestyle?
Why do others simmer quietly for years
and then finally explode into a
murderous rage?
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When we can't contain the pressure any more, we blow a gasket
so to speak, and the boiling hot water simply runs out and scalds
which ever hapless victim comes too close or is thought to be at
fault or deserving of punishment or blame.
What is most tragic is when the rising pressure has nowhere to go.
When no more pressure can be tolerated, and when natural and
normal pressure valves are not functioning, the whole boiler
explodes and tragedy is once again lived out before us all.
What is the dis-ease? It is lack of Love as a child. Lack of
tenderness and compassion. Lack of approval and worth. Lack of
affection and gentleness and forgiveness. Lack of an adequate
parent-mentor to tenderly and compassionately help a desperately
wounded child, to learn the beauty and joy of water that naturally flows in and
out and never becomes pressurized.
VIOLENT THOUGHTS AND FANTASIES ARE WATER BOILING IN THE VESSEL WE CALL SELF.
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The healing doesn't come from mental vigilance, knowledge or from
Your Personal Muse. The healing comes from revisiting the steam
boiler factory in your heart and past, and rebuilding anew, starting
with re-enabling the pressure valve of crying and grieving.
You are perfectly designed to cry and grieve, and emerge
reconstructed with tenderness and compassion so you never harm a
soul. And there is no nobler cause than to lovingly protect other
innocent people by loving yourself when no one else did. And Your
Personal Muse will be at your side.
How can Your Personal Muse do to help cope with violent
thoughts and fantasies? To prevent acting out what is
torturing the poor soul?
With steam boiler-is-going-to-blow antidotes: Tenderness,
compassion, hugs, understanding, approval, and listening.
Healing is required. Tears and the healthy expression of repressed
human emotions are the human pressure valve.
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